Last week, the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage nationwide. Naturally, it was an issue that brought on a variety of reactions, both positive and negative. My first thought was, it’s about time. It’s about time Love wins this one.
Chad and I were married almost six years ago, and it was beautiful, with God at the center of our ceremony. Our verse for the day was 1 John 4:19, “We love because He first loved us.” Our marriage was based on love, a love we believe comes from God.
Like many, if not most, couples, we did a lot of planning and wondering and dreaming about that day in the months leading up to it. But one thing we didn’t have to wonder about or dream about was the possibility of it happening. We knew it could happen. We knew we could marry. We knew we could solidify our love through this covenant, and spend the rest of our lives as husband and wife. In fact, we took it for granted, never even considering that this was a privilege. But it was.
It’s an incredible thing that some think they have the authority to say who we can and cannot love. Can and cannot love. Life is so hard in so many ways. There’s so much hate and war and discrimination and rape and slavery and deceit in the world that it can knock you down, and we’re fighting over who we can and cannot love?
As I scroll through my Facebook feed, and listen to the news, and hear people make horrendous jokes using words that make my skin crawl, it’s no wonder to me that people run from the evangelical church and church as a whole. It makes me ashamed.
And yet, pushing back against every “How to Respond When the White House Celebrates Sin” article, I also see words of encouragement and support and love, and rainbow-colored profile pictures. And then I’m proud. I’m proud to see that Love wins anyway. Love wins in spite of. Love wins in the face of. Love wins.
Friends, it’s so much more important to be kind and loving, than it is to be “right” or even “righteous.” It’s so much more important to add love to the world, than it is to try to conform others to your beliefs. It’s important to remember that when Love wins, God wins, because God is Love, and all love comes from God.
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“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:36-40